New mommies everywhere reacted to the news that a government task force recommended screening for depression during and after pregnancy. But not everyone applauded the idea.
New York Times best selling writer Marianne Williamson wrote a Facebook post to her large social media following cautioning her readers that this was all a big gambit to supporting Big Pharma and that you can treat postpartum depression with meditation, love, and prayer.
Oh, if only it was so easy.
Currently one in seven girls developing some kind of a postpartum mood disorder( i.e. postpartum depression, postpartum anxiety, postpartum OCD, postpartum psychosis, etc ), yet merely 35 percent of these women ever receive any form of therapy. The notion is that widespread screenings will lead to wider spread subsistence, healthier mamas, and happier families.
When I read Williamson’s post, I was enraged. Not merely was this post hurtful, but it was harmful as well. There is already such a stigma links with mental health in national societies. It’s not talked about in the same way as heart disease or diabetes or cancer, despite impacting so many people. Combine that with the thick layers of judgment surrounding motherhood( and the ideal of the “Good Mother”) and the effect can be incredibly dangerous.
See, the thing is, I’ve been there. Hell, I’m still there. I have severe, debilitating anxiety thatat the momentcan only be managed with medication. Every night I dutifully take my two pills so that the next day I am able to wake up, get out of bed and actually want to be productive. My drug allows me to want to take care of my son and spouse. It allows me to want to work. It allows me to take my puppy for a walking and actually enjoy myself. It also allows me to do supplemental anxiety treatments like take yoga class, receive acupuncture, and yes, Marianne Williamson, even meditate.
But I wouldn’t be able to do any of those things, let alone have the strength to get up in the morning, if I didn’t have access to my drug. I know this, because it was only a year ago that I lost 20 lbs. in two weeks. My days flew by in a haze of heart palpitations, full body sweats, dizziness, nausea, zero craving, and exhaustion. I was too busy panicking to even think about meditating.
Reading Williamson’s post, all the nervousnes and rage and frustration I felt over the last year bubbled up and I knew that I couldn’t allow her words to hurt any woman who may indeed be helped by the idea of national screening. So, I did what I could, I opposed back with my terms.
There is already such a stigma links with mental health in national societies. It’s not “was talkin about a” in the same way as heart disease or diabetes or cancer, despite impacting so many people.
I came up with the hashtag #MeditateOnThis in hopes that by co-opting Williamson’s own words, I could help give voice to the thousands of women who may have felt silenced by her post.
I reached out to Katherine Stone of Postpartum Progress and together we launched the hashtag. In less than two hours, #MeditateOnThis started trending and had reached a million people, and over the next day it would reach millions more. The hashtag struck a chord for many women, allowing them a virtual space where they could share their truths, their tales, and be in the company of others who had been there, and survived that. They were not alone.
As the number of tweets and scenes grew, the power of the hashtag was almost palpable. And, despite Williamson backtracking slightly, what objective up being more important was that people had a place to talk about what they went through.
I was also able to share bits of my story. Others shared how grateful the latter are for healthcare providers who gave a damn. Tweets ranged from outraged to heartbreaking to hopeful. And, they’re still coming.
The hashtag has moved from a deliberate pushback against person or persons and they’re damaging remarks to being a digital archive for those living with various mood ailments. There was power in reclaiming the idea of mediation to focus on our own truths.
Many people may questions the power of hashtag activism, but after I saw the response to a hashtag I created last week, I will never underestimate the strength of new momsand the power of a viral pushback.
Avital Norman Nathman is a freelance novelist whose work places a feminist lens on a variety of topics, including maternal health, reproductive rights, gender, parenting, and pop culture. Her first book, The Good Mother Myth: Redefining Motherhood To Fit Reality, came out January 2014 from Seal Press. She’s currently working on her second volume, looking at the idea of perfection within the U.S. birth industry. Follow her on Twitter @TheMamafesto .
Illustration via Max Fleishman